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Banned deucer.
When a pansexual says hes in a stable relationship, it means hes fucking something on the farm
This is why GSM is easier, lol.Nyktos said:It's LGBTTIQQ2SA you monster.
indeed
lolI am Christian and have no problem with non hetero people at all as long as they don't over do their gayness.
For example one time I was at Universal Studios and some men dressed like females had crazy hair like girls and all. It just made everything in that area awkward and it was just overdone especially how one of the boys had on short shorts and you could see the bottom of the cheek and we were all like O.O
Moral of the story is be like a NPH gay, I think NPH is awesome and is my favorite white actor actually. Just because you like the same sex doesn't mean you have to be the opposite. Don't hate me to much for this post, its late :x
so you mean all the time???I don't act very stereotypical until I've had a few drinks. :u
Yeah, I have no problem with non-homos, as long as they don't overdo their straightness. Be more like Ryan Seacrest or something, he is awesome and my favorite white, terrible television show host.coolbiz said:I am Christian and have no problem with non hetero people at all as long as they don't over do their gayness.
Not saying they have to, just dont over do it to the point where you say, its awkward. I completely understand if homo people want to get FABULOUS and what not.Also it's pretty bullshit to say that non-heteros have to act in a hetero way (basically what the suggestion is here) before they're socially acceptable. The problem isn't people acting outside of gender norms, the problem is having a problem with that to begin with. No, people don't HAVE to act that way... but there's no reason to feel uncomfortable and/or bothered by people going outside the societal norms of their gender. I can't see any way other people can be hurt by this, so why be upset by it or make a value judgment on these people based on it?
In my opinion, you're out when you tell someone, rather that be one person, everyone, a friend, or a parent. I think you may be feeling this way because you haven't told the most important people to you and they the are people that matter the most, but they are usually the hardest to tell. Best advice I can give is to not worry about too much. You've already told a lot of people and that's an accomplishment, so feel happy about that and you'll will know when it's time to tell your family.I guess I'll use this thread to ask a question or two myself: do you consider being "out" to every single person you meet the only "out of the closet" per se? I'm personally only out to friends, my sister, and a couple of cousins. Yet it's still hard for me to feel "out" despite everyone but the adults in my family knowing (though even if they suspect they don't ease up on me getting married :rolleyes:). Probably I'll feel better when I come out to my mom one day, but still I dislike my feeling that even being "out" to most people doesn't really count unless your closest family knows.
For me, I plan on coming out to my mom (and by extension the rest of my family) when I move into my own place, but even then I can't predict if I will do so (though I'd be much more likely to). So what about your coming out stories (or closet stories if you are like me or even more hidden)? This isn't therapy, but I feel like venting frustrations to people who don't know you in person can be very helpful (a weigth off you shoulders if you will).
I don't really know about this. I mean, I like to think that I'm pretty much an open book, but unless people ask me specifically, I usually don't disclose much personal information about myself. I guess that in some way I'm "out" to every single person that I meet in a "I don't hide it," sort of way, but I'm not "out" to every single person that I meet in a "hi, my name is Ryan, and I'm gay," sort of way. This has pretty much been the way I have lived my life since I first came out when I was 14.do you consider being "out" to every single person you meet the only "out of the closet" per se?
My coming out story is kind of funny, and as I begin to tell it, I realize that I haven't been asked about it in ages. I was a freshman in high school and at the ripe age of 14 when I came out, and I lived in a town of about 13,000 people and attended a school with about 600. Basically as soon as I would let myself believe that I could be gay, I realized immediately that I was. Reading that, it kind of sounds weird. Basically what I mean is that I sort of always had a suspicion that I was different from other people in some way, but because of the stigma around homosexuality, I never really let the thought that "different" could mean "gay." Once I opened myself up to that idea, it just sort of clicked for me. A lot of unresolved feelings started to make sense, and within a couple of days, I felt confident that this was who I was. I "came out" by changing my preference on MySpace (lol) from "straight" to "gay" on a Friday night, and by the time I went to school on Monday, everybody was talking about it.So what about your coming out stories (or closet stories if you are like me or even more hidden)?
Yeah, so much this, if anyone asks me, or even if it just comes up naturally I will mention it but I think it is weird to just talk about personal details without their being some kind of prompt for it. Also coming out at 14, :o, you had a lot more balls than I did in high school, I waited till I was 17 just cause I didn't want to deal with all the high school bullshit that would inevitably arise from it.Treeko said:I mean, I like to think that I'm pretty much an open book, but unless people ask me specifically, I usually don't disclose much personal information about myself. I guess that in some way I'm "out" to every single person that I meet in a "I don't hide it," sort of way, but I'm not "out" to every single person that I meet in a "hi, my name is Ryan, and I'm gay," sort of way. This has pretty much been the way I have lived my life since I first came out when I was 14.
Treeko, I'm pretty sure you are reading my mind, I came out to some of my closest friends and most were ambivalent (which rocked), but one was over exited and started telling other people without asking me, as a result I didn't come out to my family either, it got to them by word of mouth. But now I'm at the point in my life where it would be nice if people I met just knew without me telling them, lol, its probably just because I am lazy though.Treeko said:Some people were really excited for me, and others were very ambivalent about things. The ambivalence was honestly what I was seeking. I wasn't a different person that day than what I was the preceding 14 years, and I wanted people to realize that.
I really encourage adoption, mostly to help a child with a troubled past have a better life. I'd also encourage trying to adopt an older child, though they are more likely to have poor behavior. They're much less likely to get adopted than infants and toddlers and often don't end up with a good family, if they get one at all and really need whatever help they can get to have successful and happy life. It's a lot like Animal Shelters, the puppies and kittens get adopted quickly while the older animals rarely get a chance.What do you guys think about the future for LGBTQ and serrogate mothers / in-vitro? I'm sure it's already practiced (I have a gay friend who recently had his own son through a serrogate he paid--- which I think is great), but do you think this would become even more widely available and widely seen?
Yeah, nothing is really that black-and-white. I'm basically as "out" as you are in terms of friends and random people, but I mostly shy away from family since they are all blabbermouths. My mom (and family) is Chinese and she still has a small town perspective about most things (like my 21 yr old sister staying out late, drinking, when we choose to sleep, etc.) and my sister had an argument about sexual preferences with her while I was away at college (she's not gay, so I assume it was just theoretically testing the waters for me if you will) and I don't think my mother took it well. Maybe its just the culture that is still ingrained within her (and my aunts/her sisters) but the idea of coming out while still living with her is way too much (I share a room with her, damn Chinese families in NYC being crowded in with each other). I'm not as afraid of her reaction as I am of her constant nagging (I already put up with WAY too much, no more fuel to the fire) and yelling. Oh, and her questions of when I'll attract a girl and have babies :eek:.Long Treecko posts, failed to evolve to Grovyle.
And now I've been up for ages and have made two long, rambly posts. :u
The jury is still out on that. I'm no biologist but from what I understand sexuality is likely influenced by a number of different factors, some of which may be genetic.There isn't any such thing as gay genes Chou... if anything the research I ave seen suggestions orientation comes from hormone balances while in the womb.
God that book was shit.The odd thing is, I almost never have to come out by saying "I'm gay" to someone. The first peple I came out to were my high school librarians in senior year. The method? I gave one a copy of "Rainbow Boys" and the other a copy of "Geography Club" and just let it go from there.